Daniel J. Siegel “Mindsight”

I would like to highly recommend this particuliar book. Not because it’s is so scientifically accurate (it is not) or so well written (neither as well), but because it has the potential to trully transform everybody life and give very interesting insights in our everyday behaviour. Below some of the very best citations that shook my assumptions about human.

##<< Our focus on his bodily sensations built interoception; reflection and journal writing opened his awareness to feelings; and imagery work strengthened his ability to attend to nonverbal experiences.>>

##<< When we block our awareness of feelings, they continue to affect us anyway. Research has shown repeatedly that even without conscious awareness, neural input from the internal world of body and emotion influences our reasoning and our decision making. Even facial expressions we’re not aware of, even changes in heart rhythm we may not notice, directly affect how we feel and so how we perceive the world.>>

##<< Attachment patterns are one of the few dimensions of human life that appear to be largely independent of genetic influence.>>

##<< The best predictor of a child’s security of attachment is not what happened to his parents as children, but rather how his parents made sense of those childhood experiences.>>
##<< Wonderful things happen when people feel felt, when they sense that their minds are held within another’s mind.>>
##<< From the point of view of survival, “I am bad” is a safer perspective than “My parents are unreliable and may abandon me at any time.” It’s better for the child to feel defective than to realize that his attachment figures are dangerous, undependable, or untrustworthy. The mental mechanism of shame at least preserves for him the illusion of safety and security that is at the core of his sanity.>>
##<< When we are on autopilot, our awareness “believes” what it perceives. There is no mindsight, and our state-dependent perceptions, emotional reactions, beliefs, and behavioral responses are felt to be justified, equated with absolute reality, not discerned as just activities of the mind.>>
##<< research has revealed that people with dismissing narratives show physiological signs that their subcortical limbic and brainstem areas still register the importance of relationships. It’s simply that the higher cortical areas, where consciousness is created, shut out this awareness in order to survive barren times.>>
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